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The OSU Caste System. What’s the whole fuss about?

Post author By Nma's diary blog
Post date 23rd July 2020
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As much as I would love to write this all over again for you, I have an even better Idea. Pictorial representation of the blog topic.

I find it very disturbing, that even amongst a group of people who call themselves brothers, one family. The hierarchy is this unfair,and still practiced casually like it doesn’t matter at all.

True, you cannot control what society dishes out. But you can control what you take in. Some of us don’t filter chaff at all. We just drain it all into our sytem. At the end of the day we end up being misinformed, judgemental lots with no mind or curiosity of their own.

The History of the Osu caste sytem, is one that’s been interpreted in different ways. Some interpret it to suit their beliefs and fuel their privileges, others just write whatever they like.

Imagine subjecting innocent generations to a life of cultural stigma. Punishing them for crimes they know nothing about. It doesn’t make any sense. And its painful that of all the cultures people want to preserve. The Osu caste sytem sits at the top of that list.

How can you claim to believe in a God and not know him? What I won’t understand is how they knew nothing about the supreme God they believed in. Perhaps when the white man introduced God as the one true and powerful being, they gave him a name for formality sake. And kept on worshiping their other gods instead of him.

Sigh…

People have been robbed of their happiness because of this system. Many have been put into depression, questioned their self esteem,etc. So why can’t we come together as a United front, and put an end to this? What exactly do we stand to gain?

Have a lovely day!

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Suicide. A selfish or peaceful decision?

Post author By Nma's diary blog
Post date 16th July 2020
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I really hope you do not find this offensive. Neither do you see this as me encouraging suicide. It’s a very scary thought, and definitely not something I would want anyone to ever think of. Because trust me I’ve been on that thin rope before. And I know just how suffocating it felt, to experience such emotions bursting through my veins.

If we’re are being truly honest with ourselves, one of the major reasons why some of us Christians or religious people, haven’t gone through with this act, is simply because we are scared of going to hell. Not even because we are thinking of the family we would be causing a huge amount of pain. Believe me, if taking one’s life wasn’t a sin, the world would be a grieving echo.

People are very quick to throw the stones of morality. Oh why would they do such an evil thing, oh that’s so selfish, why didn’t they talk to anyone? Infact people even hiss when the cause of death of a person is said to be suicide. Because to them,that’s stupid. An irrelevant death, an unwise decision. However these persons never sit down to ask themselves the big question “WHY”.

Didn’t that person have dreams they wanted to see to fruition? Goals and ambitions that drove them? Didn’t they have at least one person in the world who brought smiles to their gloomy faces. Where they not passionate about things as well? Did they not have places they would have loved to explore in the world? What could have triggered that person who seemed pretty Stable and happy, to take their own life. What signs did we miss?

So you can imagine the courage it took for any person who has ever done that, to actually go through with it. Yes they knew people were going to hurt, but they also felt like living would be hurting themselves even more. And it’s so sad that there are people who have reached their crossroads, people who are patiently waiting for any reason at all to keep going, and any last straw, that could break them eventually.

When you hear of a friend, who committed suicide, we suddenly jump out of the shadows throwing deceitful statements like “She could have spoken to me or someone about what she was facing, I met her several times, she always looked happy.

You know what I think? I think we say these things to comfort ourselves. To make us believe that we xould have stopped it, if she spoke to us. What we are forgetting here though is, when last did we do a checkup on this same person?

When was the last time we picked up our phones and said, Oh! I haven’t heard from this person in a while, I wonder how they’re doing, and then you give them a call, When? We are all guitly. We use the excuse of everyone has their shit to handle. If that’s as true as we preach it on our social media, Why then does it bother you when you lose a friend to suicide? What happened to dealing with your issues? Why are you suddenly showing concern you didn’t show when they were alive?

Why? Does it haunt you that much?

I get it, really I do. I understand that sometimes life can be really mean to us personally. I get that sometimes we even forget to check on ourselves. But what I will never understand, is how you stay comfortable with not hearing from someone who’s meant to be close to you, for a very long period. What I don’t understand is the regret you feel, because their dead.

Something you didn’t feel on the days you promised to give them a call and never did. Or the days they called and you sighed and never returned those calls. Because somehow your messed up mind thinks every call from an old friend has to do with them wanting money or a favour from you.

Suicide is as peaceful as it is selfish. There are so many people out there, some of them are in our tight circles who are suicidal. But we’re too busy with ourselves, to pay them any attention. Check on that friend who’s the life of every party, the sanguine whose tears or frowns you never see. The quiet and reserved ones, who would rather nod away than speak.

This world can be a very lonely place. You can have so may people around and still feel lonely. People are going through alot. They are fighting demons everyday and covering it up with the perfect smiles. That’s why when someone eventually decides that life is over for them.

They don’t think about anyone else more than the peace they believe they would get,if they leave this world. They think of a way to end the pain they feel deep down their souls forever. So yes, suicide is a selfish but peaceful decision.

Now I’m not encouraging anyone to take their lives. I would never do that. All I can say is, do a self evaluation of yourself. Are you really a good friend to those around you? Do you check on them? Even if it’s not reciprocated, just do it out of the goodness of your heart.

Be kind always to people, be kind. Again, I implore you, be kind. I’ll rather hold your hands and feel you hold them back. Than stand in front of you with different flowers, with the fragrance of what ifs and regrets.

Have a lovely day!

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The truth about Pain.

To some extent we are all fractured inside. The type that never heals psychologically, like a scar it has become a part of our skin. Haunting our memories, and laying ambush to the source of happiness we manage to tap into.

A daily reminder that Life Happens and there’s absolutely nothing we can do about it.
For some reason the Pain is comforting. It’s like the one person that brings out the best in you if handled properly. The perfect definition of a life companion. First it creeps into the core of your very existence feeding on every emotion that reproduces happiness like the parasite it is.

Trying to suffocate you alongside it’s partner in crime “depression”
Breaking your defences without much effort and now you’re left feeling miserable.
A permanent Parasite that’s never leaving it’s host. You think being messed up is such a terrible thing? You think Pain is the enemy?

Being messed up is the only way to clear up the mess, start all over, mess up a few more things, take your corrections and start the process again..it’s a continuous cycle called “LIFE “.
Pain has never been the enemy, it has always been the “Good Guy clothed in the devils cloak”. You want to know why?

Well that’s because You can never improve if you have never been given a good reason to. Failure births pain, and you can only do better when you’ve felt the Pain of Failure such that you’ll learn from your mistakes just to avoid contact with that sort of pain again.
Pain breaks you into so many pieces such that you now refer to yourself as “damaged”
And yet I said he’s the Good guy, funny right?

Truth is, you really don’t know how strong you are until you’ve been through hell, You really don’t know how Life works until it has passed through you in the most difficult ways, Pain is all about SURVIVING, learn to embrace it.
Pain comes in different forms to break and damage you, but what you decide to do with that pain lies solely in your hands.

You may decide to digest it, and make something positive out of it. Or decide to live with it without utilising it to your advantage.
You learn from Pain, you Own Pain. It doesn’t own you. What’s the point of all this?

Whenever you feel depressed, like the world is against you, like you want to disappear from the surface of the earth, Always try to get through the Pain not past it. Don’try to supress it or push it aside or ignore it, Never IGNORE the Pain.

Pray about it. God more than anyone knows how you feel,and he’s the perfect person to talk to about whatever pain you feel inside,Cry if you must, go Solo/ MIA and resurface with a game changing plan for your Life. After all, we are still growing and learning from experiences, some of which are yet to come.

The problem however is when people purposely revisit past pain. Now it’s not because they haven’t gotten past that stage, No. But because they’ve become so used to relying on it. Sometimes as human beings we tend to get into some type of melancholic mood. Now this can happen naturally or artificially.

It happens naturally when you don’t plan it, you just begin to feel that way. In some cases there’s a recent trigger. Something bad happened today for instance, and it just makes your heart ache. Then you get so knee deep into that emotion, and you’re all moody. That one isn’t forced, it’s a natural thing.

The artificial method however, isn’t triggered by recent events, but rather by past events, such as loss, mistakes, failures, old emotions. In this case, people might have things going well for them, career and relationships wise. They are probably having more good days than bad, unlike before.

And crazy as it may sound, this sudden need to remember what their past pain felt like resurfaces. And since there’s nothing current that can give them that emotion, they begin to dig back into their past, into Insecurities they’ve conquered, whatever it is they’ve gotten past that caused them pain, they revisit. Just to feel that melancholic surge again.

You might say, why would anyone do that to themselves. That’s self hurt. Why not accept where they are, be grateful for the happiness they’ve found, and move on. But you need to understand, Pain is as addictive as coke. No matter how much we say to ourselves, I don’t want to ever feel pained or hurt, we will always feel it. It’s part of life, and it’s unavoidable.

That’s why when it’s been absent for too long, you silently long for it, because it brings out a strong emotion within you. There are peope who are more productive when they’re melancholic, people who depend on that particular emotion to do something outstanding, it’s just how it is for them.

I’m probably making sense, or maybe I’m not. That’s your choice to make, not mine. However,I hope you understand what I’m saying.

In all, whatever it is you do, let God be the center of it all. In your pain, embrace his comfort. And please never ever linger in that emotion, it could destroy you, if you let it. The ball’s in your court, as it has always been. Use that to your advantage.

Have a lovely day!