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First things first, I’m a medical student. And if I were to choose my course in my next life, Alaye! It’s definitely not going to be medicine. I’m not a preacher of discouragement, but I’m a preacher of the truth, the things they are not gonna tell you. I’m Chidinma, de la medical student el frustrated.

I know it’s hard to believe that I’m not trying to discourage you. Take it as a little expo from my humble self, who is currently in the sytem. See it as a favour I’m kind enough to grant you. I’m going to tell you some certain hard truths.

Not because I want you to back down on your choice of course. But because I need to know that it’s something you’re ready for. And if after reading this article, you’re still pumped up about studying medicine, then you’re welcome to reading my next medical related article.

I understand the pressure that comes from parents wanting their children to study medicine. They tell you it’s easy peasy, just read your books and you’ll be fine. And every year if 2000 students write jamb, at least 1400 are applying to study medicine.

Then you begin to wonder, what happened to other courses? As much as I know a job is secured for you, who finishes as a general practitioner, which is one of the main reasons, why parents will push you to study this course. I also know there are more professions with people, who earn even higher than consultants.

So if you’re going in for this course because, someone somewhere whispered a sweet lie into your ears, about you earning dollars and pounds, Get ready to be disappointed. Because it will take more than your Mbbs degree to start earning in that currency or in millions.

Those people you envy didn’t get to where they were with that one degree. They kept pushing, kept studying, and took more International examinations, to give them the recognition they have today, in the society. Below are certain truths they won’t tell you about studying medicine.

1)Odikwa very Tough: I had to say this in Igbo, just so you know how serious I am. Medicine is HARD. Forget what they told you, take it from me who’s a living testimony, it’s HARD. I get that parents will obviously not want to say anything that will discourage you from taking that step. But you need to want this for yourself.

Not for them(your family) not for society, but for yourself. People will say Ahh!! read your books and you’ll pass. That’s true. But no one will tell you about the days you open your textbook and every word seems like Hata la Vista aka Mumbo Jumbo.

No one tells you how annoying it gets when you’re in a class, and you practically have zero idea on what the lecturer is saying. Absolutely No one, except me ofcourse, will tell you the days you will plan to study for a test, but can’t, because of the numerous assignments you’ve been flooded with.

2)It can be very depressing: Mental health is something no one will talk to you about, when you’re choosing a course. You’ll just have to figure it out yourself along the line. Not anymore! That’s why I’m writing this article for FREE! Is God not good like this eh?

Every medical student, has at some point been depressed. Even the Brainiacs that carry Book on their head, like life support. You see them being all smiles, but if you knew the things they battled with. The silent tears they shed, you’ll know that academic stress really takes a toll on one’s mental health. My 200 level for Instance, was a horror movie.

Naturally, I hate horror movies. But this one in particular, I had to sit through it all. My result was Bad. I feel like the word “Bad” is putting it mildly. It wasn’t funny at all. I wanted to run Mad. And I’m not even exaggerating. Initially I laughed about it, what they call laughing away your sorrows. But when reality dawned on me? Omoh everywhere premium tears.

Like I would literally just sit down and question my intelligence. That’s what medicine does to you. It humbles you. When I knew it was really bad, was the day I cried just thinking of that semester and everything that went wrong. Thank God for my Amazing Mother, that woman is my everyday support system. She cleaned my eyes, encouraged me, gave me the ginger I needed, to stop crying over spilled milk.

So your mental health will be messed with, some courses will make you want to scream your lungs out. Let’s not even talk about the lecturers that will rather you starve, by holding classes that seem like forever. Because, to them your free time, is something that must be taken advantage of by them. They don’t care about your mental health, almost no one cares. You have to take good care of that. Else you’ll end up changing your course to biochemistry or microbiology on your own, out of Frustration.

3)Your self esteem will experience fluctuations: If you’re entering medical school with shoulders raised, because in your secondary school, you used to come first. Expect premium disappointment.

Your first position is another persons 10th position in medical school. There will always be someone who’s more intelligent. Your people will definitely hype you up,which is good and expected. The mistake however is letting the hype turn your head anti clockwise.

There will be examinations and tests you’ll take, that when you see your score, you’ll think a stranger wrote down the answers. It’s not about being intelligent, in medical school it’s about being Smart. There will be lecturers who will make you feel like nothing, like you’re some willy willy dumbo.

If you don’t have Odeshi Mind, you’ll end up believing them, and it begins to manifest in your academic work. Before you know it, you that entered medical school with your shoulders raised, will see yourself as little and unintelligent, when compared to your coursemates.

This is a summary of things they won’t tell you about studying medicine. Remember, this is not to discourage you. Rather see it as a form of enlightenment. Ask yourself the main reason why you want to study this course. If it’s something you’re ready to invest your time in. If after doing this, you’re certain and satisfied with your answer, then by all means go ahead. I’ll be rooting for your success in our field.

Have a lovely day!

I know that look, how can she talk about marriage when she’s still Single, I mean at least you have to be in a serious relationship to even open your mouth Waaaa and say anything about relationships as serious as marriage. Lool I get all that, really. But you see this mentality right here? It has cost people alot.

When you make advice seem like an age thing, people tend to make mistakes that could have been avoided, all in the name of who is she to advice me? That one that hasn’t been married. How dare she talk to me about my marriage, when she doesn’t even have any thing serious going on for her. We’ve been structured to believe that useful advice in terms of marriage, can only come from one of these 3 persons.

Your Spiritual leader, could be a pastor or a priest. Your parents because they’ve had a longer experience in the game and your fellow married friends. What people have failed to realise however, is the same tolerance that sustained your parents marriage, could be the one that breaks you in your own marriage.

Their way of resolving issues may not work for you. Your mother’s definition of submission to her husband, may seem Archaic and wrong in your eyes. Definitely there will be positive things to pick up from their marriage. Things you can apply to yours to make it work.

But know how to filter out that which you know within you, won’t serve you right. We might not admit it openly, but within us we know, that it isn’t everything in our parents marriage we would emulate, there are some things we wouldn’t let breathe in our own marriages.

Having said that, it’s important to be able to recognize reasonable and good advice when we see one. Might even come from a 14 year old. Listen to the words being spoken, not the age of the speaker. Now to our topic, how much is too much in Marriage?

I believe everyone has a limit to things they can endure in whatever they’re in, friendships, situationships, entanglements, embarrassments, relationships and finally marriage. Your tolerance level has a breaking point. When it reaches that point, you just know you’re done for real. The real question is, what are those things that can make you jump up and say, Enough is Enough!

In my own little comprehension of Relationships and what they should be like, I honestly feel if there is something you’re not comfortable with before you guys got married, you better speak up. Because this whole feeling of marriage will change her or marriage will make him more responsible or calm his temper is a big lie oh!

Don’t kid yourself my dear. If you know that there is a certain trait you cannot tolerate for life, you’ve talked, and he or she isn’t listening, my dear kindly leave. Because the chances of it getting better when ya’ll are married is slim. This might seem like an overreaction, but it’s those little things you close your eyes to,that end up exploding in your face.

Marriage is a beautiful institution, I don’t believe in Enduring in marriage. Disagree with me all you want, but I don’t pray for anyone to get into a marriage of endurance. A marriage where you practically have to swallow what your system absolutely hates. All in the name of keeping the house together.

How much is too much? Enduring to the extent where you lose value of who you are and what you’re worth. When you look into the mirror in utter horror, because you can’t recognize the woman standing in front of you. Too much is putting all your goals, Ambitions and life plans in the Trash can for them. Simply because it was demanded from you, and someone somewhere thinks being the Man of the house, includes putting you down, just because he wants to shine.

How much is too much? When you know in your heart that, that marriage has already gone down the drains. Always avoiding running into him or her whenever they’re around. Overthinking and questioning God for letting you make the mistake of marrying them. Living in fear and becoming mute, because everything you seem to say attracts trouble, a slap on the cheek or even a blow.

How much is too much? When it dawns on you that you’re already dead inside. Seeing how your “endurance” has negatively affected the way your Sons think about women, and how your daughter now perceives all men to be. Not wanting to come back home everyday, because this woman keeps reminding you of all your failures, Nagging endlessly and making demands and threats,using your kids as bait. Because she knows just how tolerating you are, and how much uou value family.

Everyone knows when they get to that point of Enough is Enough. The question is what we do when we reach that point. How do we react, what decisions do we make? I used to think marriage was a do or die affair, but it’s not. I believe there is someone for everyone.

The mistake we make however, is choosing who we want. Whether that’s who God wants for us or not, doesn’t matter. As long as we want them, every other choice is counterfeit. At the end of the day we end up regretting those decisions. That’s why people keep emphasising on marrying the right person. And it takes one with the spirit of discernment to actually know when, someone is right or wrong for them.

I hope we all have a Godly marriage. One that makes us genuinely happy inside. I pray we never get to that point of enough of is enough in our marriages.

Have a lovely week!

We all love a good movie, well except the 2 percent that don’t have the patience to see it tothe end. Something that makes your mind shiver in anticipation of what’s next. The type of movie you never want to pause or put on hold. A movie where the character build up excites you, movies that provoke strong Emotions within us. That’s my idea of a good movie.

This quarantine period I’ve spent more Mb on downloading movies on netflix, than Instagram or any other social media app. It’s crazy, because at this point, there’s almost no new movie, Film or series that I haven’t seen. Netflix ought to pay me for this sort of patronizing, honestly.

So believe, and trust me when I say, the Films and Series I’m about to suggest to you, are all worth it. I mean, I’ve seen some wack movies on Netflix, no offence to the producers of such movies. But there are certain movies that aren’t Netflix worthy. Like,when I come across them it makes me cringe. Because all I think of is how on earth did this thing land here? How?!!

And that’s why you have to trust me on this one. One or two of the movies I’ll suggest are actually limited series. That means they just have few episodes, maybe four or five and that’s it. So just incase you’re too lazy to see movies up to season 4 or 5, these limited series are for you. So now you have no excuse, none at all for not seeing them. Now for someone who has watched more than 10 netflix series and films, 7 might seem like a small number to recommend. However, this is mainly for my people who are looking to start off their movie watching on Netflix. These are a few out of many more amazing movies you could start with.

Alright here comes nothing, In no particular order….

1)Unorthodox: I wasn’t particularly excited when this limited series came out to be honest. But there was something about the short storyline they out up. She runs away to berlin and finds freedom. When I see storylines that involve a woman running away, I’m drawn to it. I want to know why. Because it’s either she’s running to live her kife as her true self, tired of being kept in a box. Or running from someone. In this Movie, that just happens to be the case. The lead female character played her part to perfection, everything about this movie is Captivating.

2)Pink: When you’ve seen so many movies on a movie app, you just get tired of searching for the movies yourself. There was a point where I wasn’t finding any movie I liked. So I decided to pocket my pride somewhere and ask dear Google for assistance. I can’t remember the heading of my search, but I came across this movie “pink”. The storyline says it all, this movie emphasizes on the word No being a complete sentence. How women are restricted and still blamed for the lack of control in men. It’s totally relatable in the world we live in today. And that ny dear brothers and sisters is why you must see this movie.

3)Locked up: How did I come across this series again? I don’t remember. But a series with Women in prison instead of one with Men? We love to see it! The character developments in this movie is outstanding I must say. If you’re homophobic you’ll probably not find this movie interesting, because your Homophobia will blind your common sense to appreciate a good series when you see one. This movie shows just how deep and hurtful love can be, the sacrifices people make for it, and the pain of rejection. It’s a story about survival, living and finding freedom from yellow uniforms. Do you need more reasons as to why you should watch it? Get them yourself when you’re done with the series, and thank me later.

4)Skin: This documentary by Beverley Naya actually made me cry. Like I didn’t realise when the tears started falling my eyes. Had to stop watching for a short period of time, to pull myself together. If you’re struggling with acceptance of your skin, you should watch this. If you know someone, a friend who’s obsessed or bent on looking a certain way, because they don’t feel comfortable or accepted in their Skin? Recommend this movie to them. If you can, watch it with them. If you plan on becoming a mother, you have a responsibility of making sure your daughters and sons, don’t feel the need to look light, to feel beautiful. Let their skin be their own definition of beauty. So yes! You should definitely see skin.

5)Someone Great: People of God, your favourite girl wept oh, Ah! She wept. If you’re a fan of romance films oh well, sorry to break it to you, but this romance doesn’t last, I mean the one in this movie. At first I wasn’t happy with the turn of events in this Movie. Then I realized something. Love anyone as much as you want, if that love posses as a hindrance to your future/Happiness, then it’s not for you. There is so much more to relationships than we admit. This film emphasizes on the importance if having people around you who genuinely care amd love you, friends you can lean on whenever. It shows that relationships don’t define you, you define them as you do yourself. And what’s meant for you? Will stay, you don’t have to force it to stay or stress it. It’s not exactly the fairytale ending,but it’s a reality ending. And I’ll rather be faced with reality, than a fantasy.

6)It’s okay to not be okay: I’ve been initiated into the Korean movie family people of God. Hewwww!! How this happened? I honestly don’t know. This quarantine period I’ve seen at least 3 or 4 korean series and I’m loving it! The name of this series pretty much speaks for itself. The movie focuses on mental health, not like your regular Korean series, that’s why I highly recommend it for your pretty eyes.

7)Blood and Water: See ehh! The songs in this movie alone are enough to make you watch it. Afrobeats that make you want to get on your feets and dance away your problems. I’m not going to say anything more than, you should see this!!!!

Alright, there you go. I really hope you find these movies as interesting as I found them. I’ll be waiting for your feedbacks.

Have a lovely week!