I don’t feel complete without a man, Yelp!

I’ll start this one with a quick confession, because if there’s one thing I want to establish between my readers and myself is “Trust”.

Ain’t nobody got time for sugar coated stories that are far from reality. So there was this point in my life where I really felt like something was missing from my life🤔

I saw that my friends kind of had someone who would regularly check up on them, to know how they were doing and all of that mushy huspy stuff(whatever that means😶)

And there I was having really bad luck with the Male Gender, so I began to question my worth..A friggin “BABE ” like me, began to ask myself why I wasn’t seeing someone who was genuinely interested in me, and all these questions of ” Am I the problem? Could it be something I’m doing or not doing? Kept popping up

Maybe I don’t deserve to be happy at all, I would sometimes say to myself, not knowing how negative such thoughts were. I mean all I felt I needed at that point in my life was a Freaking Man!

Was that too much to ask for? Now let me cut this near story off, and go straight to the point.

Truth is, there really was a vacuum in my life, but it had totally nothing to do with a MAN.

I wasn’t doing so many things with my life, I wasn’t writing or reading new books like I used to, Neither was I trying to create new cloth designs like I had always told myself I would.

What am I trying to say in essence? There is so much more to us women, than the presence of a Man in our lives. And it’s important to understand that what you invest your thoughts in and energy into matters alot.

Invest all that Man hunting energy and attitude into that degree you’ve always wanted to pursue, that trade you’ve always wanted to learn, that business you’ve always wanted to start, Invest in Yourself, because no one can ever do as much as you can for yourself in all ramifications( So water yourself like the growing plant you are)

Develop this mindset where your worth /value is not based on the presence of anyone that isn’t God in your life. You’re a strong, independent Smart Woman, say it to yourself everyday and mean it by your actions.

Become indispensable to people around you, work place, at home, wherever you find yourself. Be the person that people run to for advice on life, business and what have you. The person they trust to always deliver.

Invest in yourself daily, get Creative with your Mind. Let your dreams and aspirations be bigger than they expect. Let your goals be what people call, Impossible to achieve.

Dream, I assure you it doesn’t cost a dime to. At the end of the day if a sensible Man comes, One that Can add Meaningful value to your life as you can to his life..Fine and Good.

If He doesn’t, life goes on, whatever will be will be. Find A way to be happy independently and try to “LIVE” without worrying about things that don’t really matter.

I mean, Life is too short to not be happy, at the end of the day, when you’re old and Gray you’ll realize that you were fretting over nothing. But it’s my prayer we don’t wait that long to realise this.

Thank you so much for your time😘